The Bad Pancake Theory…

by | Feb 23, 2021 | BLOG, Entrepreneur, Lifestyle, Success Tips

Have you heard of the bad pancake theory in dating?


Lets apply this to your business...

Basically, when you make pancakes, the first one comes out a little wonky. But as you keep going, they get progressively better!

Usually, this is applied to dating after long term relationships. The first person you date is the bad pancake. But, it gets better after that, "they say."

Well, let's apply this theory to business. The first idea you have, the first course you create, the first video you make, the first live stream you do...all bad pancakes. When I say bad, I simply mean, it's not going to be perfect. You're still learning. And there is nothing wrong with that!

I mean sure, it's "edible" - you will be able to sell it, post it, launch it, etc...but will it be the apex of your life's work? 

No! It shouldn't be.

You know how many youtube videos I made before I felt like my videos were actually...kind of good?

You know how many courses I launched before I finally felt like I created my flagship one?

You know how many talks I gave at conferences before I felt like I could own it on stage?

You know how many times I winged out my eye liner before it looked good on my face? 😂

A lot!

But you know what I never did? I never stewed in the idea that any of it had to be perfect before it made its debut. Who has time for that? I have a life to live, people to help, purpose to step into, obedience to walk in.

I kept going.

Perfectionism will kill momentum. And I am not available for that. Instead, I focused my energy on learning what I needed to learn so that it just got done! I can assess after, revamp later, and redo if necessary.

I am where I am today because I wasn't willing to lose to the idea that perfect the ONLY way to do it. 

So if you're spinning your wheels in neutral because you think the first iteration of anything needs to be absolutely perfect, just remember...even a batch of pancakes never start out ready for their cookbook cover closeup the first time.

Besides, who told you it had to be perfect anyway?

That mindset is going to make this experience more painful than it ever needed to be, my friend.

Choose again.


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Overcoming Fear of Failure

by | Feb 9, 2021 | BLOG, Entrepreneur, Lifestyle, Success Tips

Fear of failure? Fear of success? Or just maybe...


It’s neither. Maybe you're actually afraid of what people will *think* about your failures or your successes.

Will they think you’re a big fat loser if you fail? Will they hate you? Will they think you’re stupid for chasing dreams that don’t amount to anything?

Will they think you think you’re all that if you succeed? Like you’re all bad and bougie now that you’ve done some things in life?

Will you lose all your friends? Will your family come after your money? I mean...I’ve heard (and thought) all kinds of crazy things.

And those thoughts will sabotage your progress if you let them! You will pretend everything is ok when it's not because you don't want people to know you're struggling. You will not want to celebrate wins because you think your win is somehow offensive to the people around you. Its awful!

I get it! We are programmed to think about what others think. Because inherently, we are designed for community and connection. When we perceive that we will lose that connection based on how people perceive our failure or our success, well...that’s when the fear can kick in.

Here’s the thing, you will never be able to control what other people think about you. As a matter of fact, other people’s opinions of you are none of your business.

But here’s what you can control: your opinion of yourself!

Win, lose, or draw...through the successes and failures...

Do you like you? That’s really the question.

Learn to see yourself the way God sees you. Make a commitment to love yourself through anything.

It’s a game changer! I promise.

And if you do need someone to hold space for you as you process... I got you! ❤️



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The Big Lie Everyone Buys Into

by | Feb 2, 2021 | BLOG, Entrepreneur, Lifestyle, Success Tips

Everyone buys into the lie.


What lie you ask?

The lie that it has to be hard.

Success is hard.
Money is hard.
Building a business is hard.
Relationships are hard.
Life is hard.

And because we adopt that narrative, we self-sabbotage every step of the way to the goal. We sweat the small stuff. We procrastinate. We get caught up in things that are really none of our business and generally out of our control. We stress. We worry. We rinse. We repeat.

We create a cycle that edifies the internal dialogue, so we experience it over and over again because your ego refuses to be wrong. You won't betray your own core beliefs... If you decide its going to be hard, it absolutely will be!

But what if there was another way?

*Spoiler alert*

There is!

I'd like to offer up an alternative...

Its only hard if you think it is. Shocker. I know.

I have found that most things in life arent actually that hard. I am. 😂 I'm fighting myself 99% of the time. I'm in my own head. I'm talking myself out of things I'm afraid to face. I'm worrying about the wrong things at the wrong time. Its me. I am hard. So... Life reflects that right back.

Everything and everyone is you pushed out.

Yes, there will be challenges. But your "response ability" is full of choices. Thoughts become things so stop choosing thoughts that make it harder than it needs to be.

Example: I used to think launching courses needed to come with all this added stress and sleepless nights. Thats what "they" all say! Until one day in 2017 I decided I didn't want to do that. Ease and flow was also a choice. And it was way better! Quick shift. Different experience entirely.

Flip the script on yourself. Make it fun. Because yes...it all gets to be fun - if you decide thats what you want.

And when the going gets tough... Theres God's grace to fill in all the gaps I create (more on that tomorrow).


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