The Bad Pancake Theory…

Have you heard of the bad pancake theory in dating?


Lets apply this to your business...

Basically, when you make pancakes, the first one comes out a little wonky. But as you keep going, they get progressively better!

Usually, this is applied to dating after long term relationships. The first person you date is the bad pancake. But, it gets better after that, "they say."

Well, let's apply this theory to business. The first idea you have, the first course you create, the first video you make, the first live stream you do...all bad pancakes. When I say bad, I simply mean, it's not going to be perfect. You're still learning. And there is nothing wrong with that!

I mean sure, it's "edible" - you will be able to sell it, post it, launch it, etc...but will it be the apex of your life's work? 

No! It shouldn't be.

You know how many youtube videos I made before I felt like my videos were actually...kind of good?

You know how many courses I launched before I finally felt like I created my flagship one?

You know how many talks I gave at conferences before I felt like I could own it on stage?

You know how many times I winged out my eye liner before it looked good on my face? 😂

A lot!

But you know what I never did? I never stewed in the idea that any of it had to be perfect before it made its debut. Who has time for that? I have a life to live, people to help, purpose to step into, obedience to walk in.

I kept going.

Perfectionism will kill momentum. And I am not available for that. Instead, I focused my energy on learning what I needed to learn so that it just got done! I can assess after, revamp later, and redo if necessary.

I am where I am today because I wasn't willing to lose to the idea that perfect the ONLY way to do it. 

So if you're spinning your wheels in neutral because you think the first iteration of anything needs to be absolutely perfect, just remember...even a batch of pancakes never start out ready for their cookbook cover closeup the first time.

Besides, who told you it had to be perfect anyway?

That mindset is going to make this experience more painful than it ever needed to be, my friend.

Choose again.


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Vlogmas Day 3!!!


Tag you're it! What are you grateful for? #partner

This has been a challenging year. It doesn't matter how you are coming out of it, whether you are making out like a champ or you are still healing from the chaos of 2020, I am partnering with #howrightnow to talk about Gratitude!!! It is still one of the best tools you can use (I explain some science in the video).

I wanted to share 3 things I am grateful for in this season and TAG YOU to do the same! What are you grateful for? Let's get a chain going!

And if by chance gratitude is a far reach for you, I recommend heading over to how right now (link in the stories) for some amazing resources they have put together to help you deal with anxiety, loss, grief, or even unknown emotions that you haven't identified yet.

We have been through a lot, fam! I know we can make it out stronger than how we came in, even if it takes a minute. How right now is a wonderful resource to help us all get there! Check them out!

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Like A Boss

Storytime... First, that last bit was a nod to what the kids are saying these days. Lol 😂 😂 😂 they slay me!

On to the story. When I was in grad school, we took thing learning test. Basically determines a learning style. 95% of the people in my class were what's called "reflective learners" - meaning they needed time to process, think about it, etc.

I was one of 3 people who actually are the opposite. I am an active learner. And when I discovered this... Ya'll! My whole life made sense. Sitting and thinking about is NOT me... At all!

I don't wanna think, I just wanna do it and figure it out as I go. Now, I'm not saying this is always the right way to go about life, but... I will say from experience, in my own life and the people I coach... Decisiveness is a HUGE contributor to success.

The highest earners are the fastest action takers. Period. 👆🏾

Forbes, Business Insider, INC Magazine - every major publication, ever major guru says the same thing.

Action requires trust. It's easy to say you trust God, but... Actions speak louder than words my friend. Staying stuck, overthinking, all of that... It's a lack of trust more than anything. Trust God. Trust yourself. Do the things.

Action requires movement. You can meditate all day, you can say the affirmations, journal til the cows come home. I teach all of those things. But they are tools designed to lead you to divinely inspired action. If not, then what's it all for?

Action requires support. Idk who told you that you had to do it alone...because I definitely don't teach that! Lol. Get help!


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Be Bold Because You’re Called To…

Their insecurities shouldn't affect how you show up. Period.

There's always going to be that ONE person that projects their fears, anxiety and insecurity on you.

They will leave the comment.
They will thumbs down the video.
They will send you the email.
They will share their unsolicited thoughts about you, to you because it makes them feel better.

Hear me when I say this... There will always be people in the world who don't get it.

There will be people who are triggered by your success, boldness, courage, light and people who feel the need to tell you all about it because it soothes their ego to do so - know that, bless them, and move on. It has NOTHING to do with you.

As a leader, unfortunately, you will get to be on the receiving end of some not so nice things...not saying it's fair. Not saying it's right. Just saying it is.

So often, I work with people who are afraid to speak out and show up because of this - I am not exempt btw.

I wrestle. I hesitate. But here's the thing... I don't let it stop me.

Other people don't get to dictate how I show up and how I share what I've been led to share.

Other people don't get to be in control of how It makes me feel to stand on truth and courage.

Other people don't get to have that much control of my life. I mean... Come on! I'm probably not even talking to them anyway.

And so it is with you...be bold because you're called to. Show up because that's part of your service.

Cheers to how you're showing up today, my friend! I'm proud of you!



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Talent Will Never Overcome a Poor Mindset

Talent Will Never Overcome a Poor Mindset

Talent will never overcome a poor mindset.

And I'm using poor as a doubt entendre. Poor as in undesirable, low in standard and quality as well as poor as in impoverished.

In 2005, the National Science Foundation published an article showing that the average person has between 12,000 and 60,000 thoughts per day. Of those, 80% are negative and 95% are exactly the same repetitive thoughts as the day before.

And get this, neuroscientists have conducted multiple studies that show that only 5% of our cognitive activities are conscious. So 95% of our thoughts are on the subconscious level!

What the what?!?! In laymans terms, we have the same negative thoughts everyday and we don't even realize it! The danger here is that you are letting all of those negative thought patterns and beliefs affect your decisions and behaviors. Those decisions and behaviors have culminated to the life you are currently living. So if you like your life. Do nothing. You're doing great. If there are parts that you are not happy with well - you're not making enough money, you hate your job, you aren't happy with the way you look, or your love life sucks, etc... well, I'm 99% sure there's a thought pattern that we need to shift. Asap. 


Its very easy for me to spot this by the way. I can talk to someone for 5 min and see where their mental hiccups are. And it's also why I put my clients through very rigorous #mindset work.

I encounter so many brilliant, talented people who have forgotten how powerful they are and what they are truly capable doing in this world. They default to fear and limits, find comfort in impossibility and lack. They have made being discontent a "normal" way of living because all of the above don't require them to change and gives ammo to point the finger at someone else.

💣TRUTHBOMB, The problem may have always been you. But the good news is, so has the solution!

But, You have to be intentional about learning to be aware of your thought patterns. You have to study the art of mind mining the 95% of those negative thoughts so you can shift them into better ones.

Remember, Its easy to predict the future cuz if you change your thoughts, you can change your life.