Instagram vs Reality

Look at the left to see what im really working with today 🤣🤣🤣

We love the beautiful photos... Dont get me wrong. @womenbymag made me look amazing in this! The light, the room, the outfit, the hair, the makeup (thanks @cynfulmakeup for glamming me up!

Shoots like this are sometimes a part of my "workday" too but not on the reg!

The 2nd picture is more my jam when I am at home.

I'm in yoga pants because i am usually about to workout or I just finished working out, or because i really jusy like comfy bottoms. No makeup. Hair is frizzy and half blow dried because I didn't have enough time. Books, papers, planners, cords and all kinds of things around me. I am probably hungry because i forgot to eat. But I ALWAYS have warm beverage somewhere within reach.

Homemade Medicine Balls are my go to lately. Thanks to @ky_crook_on_purpose for the recipe! Its soooo good!

However... All of that is exactly why I do what I do anyway. Success to me is yoga pants and no makeup on a Monday.

Success is also stilletos and photoshoots on a Tuesday.

Both scenarios are very much a part of my life and i am here for it!

All this to say, we do what we do when we need to do it because we are CEOs.


We build empires. We make money. We change lives. We impact millions.

Whether you do it in fuzzy socks or stilletos is completely up to you. I'm cheering you on either way.

If you wanna share, I'd love to hear about your Monday!



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Be Yourself…

Be your bright sunny, self! ☀️


Dont ever feel guilty or dumb for giving people the best version of yourself.

You are not responsible for how they receive it. You can only choose to be authentically you. Sometimes... You are just a lot. Some may take advantage. Some may run away. Some may choose another over you. And that is on them.

But when you can stand in integrity and say you were authentically you... Thats enough.

You're enough.

I promise.

I pray you don't grow weary of showing up.
I pray you don't grow weary of doing well.
And I pray your heart doesnt grow calloused in the work of showing love.

Keep loving.
Keep encouraging.
Keep being kind.
Keep being generous.
Keep doing you.


Know that God put you where you needed to be in that season, in that moment for a reason. They may have needed it. And God chose you to provide it.

God works in you and through you in the lives of other people. So dont discredit Gods work by thinking that it was dumb or silly of you to be your amazing self.

Dont let their actions dictate how you love and how you show up for others.

The reward isn't always immediate, but its coming.

Sending you huge hugs from across the miles.

Ps - this was a part of what I wrote down in my own journal last night because i needed to hear this for me. Take what resonates. ❤️❤️❤️

PSS - I also highly recommended you love yourself enough to create boundaries when necessary. We are not door mats! Ok thats all 😊



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How’s Your Monday?

Dear Monday,


Thanks for having the word "mon" in you.

That's french for "mine".

In case you weren't aware, Monday, but it makes me think of you more as "my day", & frankly that sounds like a much more promising way to start the week.'

- Unknown

What a great reframe!

Yesterday, I had a minute to sit and process the amazingness that was the weekend. Was I tired? Sure. Was it worth it? Absolutely!

The @flourishmediaco conference/retreat was a success. Left the team much to think about with how we plan to move forward with it.

Thank you to everyone who participated, played a part, prayed for it, and paid to be there 😊. Tix to next year are already on sale and a little birdie told me they are half off! Get you one!

Church was great...and ended on time 😂😂😂

Got to have brunch with 2 of my favorite people on the planet.

Played Tennis and won 5 games in a row with my doubles partner @iamsoulua. Im telling you! I'm getting better!

Then I hopped on a plane. I'm taking some meetings out of town this week. Because this is what we do.

But today... Today is mine 🙂

Make it yours too!

Happy Monday fam!


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The Bad Pancake Theory…

Have you heard of the bad pancake theory in dating?


Lets apply this to your business...

Basically, when you make pancakes, the first one comes out a little wonky. But as you keep going, they get progressively better!

Usually, this is applied to dating after long term relationships. The first person you date is the bad pancake. But, it gets better after that, "they say."

Well, let's apply this theory to business. The first idea you have, the first course you create, the first video you make, the first live stream you do...all bad pancakes. When I say bad, I simply mean, it's not going to be perfect. You're still learning. And there is nothing wrong with that!

I mean sure, it's "edible" - you will be able to sell it, post it, launch it, etc...but will it be the apex of your life's work? 

No! It shouldn't be.

You know how many youtube videos I made before I felt like my videos were actually...kind of good?

You know how many courses I launched before I finally felt like I created my flagship one?

You know how many talks I gave at conferences before I felt like I could own it on stage?

You know how many times I winged out my eye liner before it looked good on my face? 😂

A lot!

But you know what I never did? I never stewed in the idea that any of it had to be perfect before it made its debut. Who has time for that? I have a life to live, people to help, purpose to step into, obedience to walk in.

I kept going.

Perfectionism will kill momentum. And I am not available for that. Instead, I focused my energy on learning what I needed to learn so that it just got done! I can assess after, revamp later, and redo if necessary.

I am where I am today because I wasn't willing to lose to the idea that perfect the ONLY way to do it. 

So if you're spinning your wheels in neutral because you think the first iteration of anything needs to be absolutely perfect, just remember...even a batch of pancakes never start out ready for their cookbook cover closeup the first time.

Besides, who told you it had to be perfect anyway?

That mindset is going to make this experience more painful than it ever needed to be, my friend.

Choose again.


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The Big Lie Everyone Buys Into

Everyone buys into the lie.


What lie you ask?

The lie that it has to be hard.

Success is hard.
Money is hard.
Building a business is hard.
Relationships are hard.
Life is hard.

And because we adopt that narrative, we self-sabbotage every step of the way to the goal. We sweat the small stuff. We procrastinate. We get caught up in things that are really none of our business and generally out of our control. We stress. We worry. We rinse. We repeat.

We create a cycle that edifies the internal dialogue, so we experience it over and over again because your ego refuses to be wrong. You won't betray your own core beliefs... If you decide its going to be hard, it absolutely will be!

But what if there was another way?

*Spoiler alert*

There is!

I'd like to offer up an alternative...

Its only hard if you think it is. Shocker. I know.

I have found that most things in life arent actually that hard. I am. 😂 I'm fighting myself 99% of the time. I'm in my own head. I'm talking myself out of things I'm afraid to face. I'm worrying about the wrong things at the wrong time. Its me. I am hard. So... Life reflects that right back.

Everything and everyone is you pushed out.

Yes, there will be challenges. But your "response ability" is full of choices. Thoughts become things so stop choosing thoughts that make it harder than it needs to be.

Example: I used to think launching courses needed to come with all this added stress and sleepless nights. Thats what "they" all say! Until one day in 2017 I decided I didn't want to do that. Ease and flow was also a choice. And it was way better! Quick shift. Different experience entirely.

Flip the script on yourself. Make it fun. Because yes...it all gets to be fun - if you decide thats what you want.

And when the going gets tough... Theres God's grace to fill in all the gaps I create (more on that tomorrow).


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