How’s Your Monday?

Dear Monday,


Thanks for having the word "mon" in you.

That's french for "mine".

In case you weren't aware, Monday, but it makes me think of you more as "my day", & frankly that sounds like a much more promising way to start the week.'

- Unknown

What a great reframe!

Yesterday, I had a minute to sit and process the amazingness that was the weekend. Was I tired? Sure. Was it worth it? Absolutely!

The @flourishmediaco conference/retreat was a success. Left the team much to think about with how we plan to move forward with it.

Thank you to everyone who participated, played a part, prayed for it, and paid to be there 😊. Tix to next year are already on sale and a little birdie told me they are half off! Get you one!

Church was great...and ended on time πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

Got to have brunch with 2 of my favorite people on the planet.

Played Tennis and won 5 games in a row with my doubles partner @iamsoulua. Im telling you! I'm getting better!

Then I hopped on a plane. I'm taking some meetings out of town this week. Because this is what we do.

But today... Today is mine πŸ™‚

Make it yours too!

Happy Monday fam!


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The Bad Pancake Theory…

Have you heard of the bad pancake theory in dating?


Lets apply this to your business...

Basically, when you make pancakes, the first one comes out a little wonky. But as you keep going, they get progressively better!

Usually, this is applied to dating after long term relationships. The first person you date is the bad pancake. But, it gets better after that, "they say."

Well, let's apply this theory to business. The first idea you have, the first course you create, the first video you make, the first live stream you do...all bad pancakes. When I say bad, I simply mean, it's not going to be perfect. You're still learning. And there is nothing wrong with that!

I mean sure, it's "edible" - you will be able to sell it, post it, launch it, etc...but will it be the apex of your life's work? 

No! It shouldn't be.

You know how many youtube videos I made before I felt like my videos were actually...kind of good?

You know how many courses I launched before I finally felt like I created my flagship one?

You know how many talks I gave at conferences before I felt like I could own it on stage?

You know how many times I winged out my eye liner before it looked good on my face? πŸ˜‚

A lot!

But you know what I never did? I never stewed in the idea that any of it had to be perfect before it made its debut. Who has time for that? I have a life to live, people to help, purpose to step into, obedience to walk in.

I kept going.

Perfectionism will kill momentum. And I am not available for that. Instead, I focused my energy on learning what I needed to learn so that it just got done! I can assess after, revamp later, and redo if necessary.

I am where I am today because I wasn't willing to lose to the idea that perfect the ONLY way to do it. 

So if you're spinning your wheels in neutral because you think the first iteration of anything needs to be absolutely perfect, just remember...even a batch of pancakes never start out ready for their cookbook cover closeup the first time.

Besides, who told you it had to be perfect anyway?

That mindset is going to make this experience more painful than it ever needed to be, my friend.

Choose again.


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The Big Lie Everyone Buys Into

Everyone buys into the lie.


What lie you ask?

The lie that it has to be hard.

Success is hard.
Money is hard.
Building a business is hard.
Relationships are hard.
Life is hard.

And because we adopt that narrative, we self-sabbotage every step of the way to the goal. We sweat the small stuff. We procrastinate. We get caught up in things that are really none of our business and generally out of our control. We stress. We worry. We rinse. We repeat.

We create a cycle that edifies the internal dialogue, so we experience it over and over again because your ego refuses to be wrong. You won't betray your own core beliefs... If you decide its going to be hard, it absolutely will be!

But what if there was another way?

*Spoiler alert*

There is!

I'd like to offer up an alternative...

Its only hard if you think it is. Shocker. I know.

I have found that most things in life arent actually that hard. I am. πŸ˜‚ I'm fighting myself 99% of the time. I'm in my own head. I'm talking myself out of things I'm afraid to face. I'm worrying about the wrong things at the wrong time. Its me. I am hard. So... Life reflects that right back.

Everything and everyone is you pushed out.

Yes, there will be challenges. But your "response ability" is full of choices. Thoughts become things so stop choosing thoughts that make it harder than it needs to be.

Example: I used to think launching courses needed to come with all this added stress and sleepless nights. Thats what "they" all say! Until one day in 2017 I decided I didn't want to do that. Ease and flow was also a choice. And it was way better! Quick shift. Different experience entirely.

Flip the script on yourself. Make it fun. Because yes...it all gets to be fun - if you decide thats what you want.

And when the going gets tough... Theres God's grace to fill in all the gaps I create (more on that tomorrow).


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What’s Your Enneagram?

Ok...I've been observing this for years.

I've seen this in hundreds of my clients/students at this point. Call this an impromptu case study, but here's what I have found:

Each Enneagram type has similar sets of challenges, struggles, limiting beliefs etc when building their business as an entrepreneur.

Each Enneagram, therefore, NEEDS to build their business a certain way. It's actually imperative. I can't stress this enough.

I have yet to find a cohesive attempt to outline this with specific regards to #Entrepreneurs - so I will do that at some point.

But...If an Enneagram 2 tries to build a business using methods that work for 8s - they will struggle. If a 4 tries to expand using a 1 strategy, that's gonna feel restrictive. And so on and so forth. If a 7 tries to do it the same as a 5, they will hate every minute of it!

Cookie cutter methods don't work because people are dynamic. Thus, building a business and receiving coaching in that area should also be - it's one of the reasons I make my clients take the Enneagram at some point. It helps me help them (yes, I'm certified).

Drop your Enneagram below...I'm tryna see something.

PS - if you were triggered by this because you don't want to be "put in a box" - you're probably a 4 (jk πŸ˜‚) But seriously, it's not about that. This test, as with many others, is an attempt to understand the spectrum of human typology in small bites.


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BEST Clients In The World!!!

When I tell you I have the best clients in the world...

I got this huge box in the mail and had no idea what could possibly be inside!

I opened it to find all these goodies!

First of all, they know me so well! Because this is my FAVORITE luggage color of all time!

I’ve actually been looking for a leather duffle just like this one and haven’t found one I liked. But I am obsessed with this! It’s perfect!!!

And all of the platform memorabilia is just the love on top.

I love love love my clients so much. They really do become like family to me! I feel so blessed to have each and every one of them in my life. And never take for granted how much they trust me in this season as I help them build their life’s dream!

So thank you to @drarlonda @themonicalove @shinesemcollins @scottie_wins @friendscallmefe @shannonlfelder @tammi_tarrelle @drkristenguillory @michellewfuqua @dr.lauravanderson_r2rlc @cwright375 @sherrellmarie1 @denisejonell @marlenebphillip @shavannahspeaks @pammccray1 @drjazzyfit @coach_lockmarie cameo and Chiquita @holyghost_homegirls @ky_crook_on_purpose

Love you all so much and my prayer is that your generosity returns to you a billion fold! πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—



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