The cookies are on the top shelf…

A mentor of mine from back in the day used to say this all the time!!! It stuck with me. It was a nod to living a life of excellence.

💯You're allowed to have high standards.

💯You're allowed to live at high levels of excellence. As a matter of fact, you should.

💯Love yourself enough to know you can have it and you deserve it. ALL!

And that word "deserve" can be very triggering. Because most of us (myself included) weren't taught that we deserve good things. Good things were a gift from God, and we should just be happy we get what we get. Don't say nothin. Don't ask for nothin. Don't rock the boat. Be content. Period. 🤢

It took me years to understand what God's grace, God's love and God's generosity really meant in my life. That's a whole story in and of itself - lemme know if you wanna hear.

Because once I got it... I got it! Shift happened!

Getting to choose how you want to live life is a gift - we all get it. Few exercise it. Its a conscious choice.

So...This is my encouragement to you to choose. Set a higher bar for yourself. Because a higher bar is available. Don't settle for mediocrity when limitless possibilities are available!

You can be happy.
You can have more.
You can live the life you want.

But you gotta become the person who knows that those things are meant for them...thats where the cookies are 🙂

Shout out to @mauizziee for these cookies. They were a prop. I cant eat them, sadly. Yall know im allergic to gluten 😂😂😂


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Reminder: Own The Parts of You That Go Against The Grain.

Reminder: Own the parts of you that go against the grain.


You're meant to be different.
You're meant to stand out.
You're meant to be uniquely you.

Strategize that.
Commercialize that.
Monetize that!!!!

Most of us grew up thinking life needed to be lived a certain way because thats all we saw.

But ambition is predicated on exposure. If you don't see the possibility of something else, we end up trying to fit in "the box" that was never meant for us.

And how's that working out for ya!?

Usually it doesn't. You end up frustrated, irritated, depressed, unhappy, etc. Basically living a life that was never meant for you.

And believe me when I say, it doesn't have to be that way. Infinite joy is a absolutely available.

As a matter of fact, its the very thing God wants for you!

All that to say, once I owned the part of me that really resisted other people perceptions on what life should be, things got easier, more fluid, more fun! And I definitely started making a lot more money. 😂

Praying you lean into who you are, who you were always meant to be be, and experience that abundantly.

Sending so much ❤️ today.


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Instagram vs Reality

Look at the left to see what im really working with today 🤣🤣🤣

We love the beautiful photos... Dont get me wrong. @womenbymag made me look amazing in this! The light, the room, the outfit, the hair, the makeup (thanks @cynfulmakeup for glamming me up!

Shoots like this are sometimes a part of my "workday" too but not on the reg!

The 2nd picture is more my jam when I am at home.

I'm in yoga pants because i am usually about to workout or I just finished working out, or because i really jusy like comfy bottoms. No makeup. Hair is frizzy and half blow dried because I didn't have enough time. Books, papers, planners, cords and all kinds of things around me. I am probably hungry because i forgot to eat. But I ALWAYS have warm beverage somewhere within reach.

Homemade Medicine Balls are my go to lately. Thanks to @ky_crook_on_purpose for the recipe! Its soooo good!

However... All of that is exactly why I do what I do anyway. Success to me is yoga pants and no makeup on a Monday.

Success is also stilletos and photoshoots on a Tuesday.

Both scenarios are very much a part of my life and i am here for it!

All this to say, we do what we do when we need to do it because we are CEOs.


We build empires. We make money. We change lives. We impact millions.

Whether you do it in fuzzy socks or stilletos is completely up to you. I'm cheering you on either way.

If you wanna share, I'd love to hear about your Monday!



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The Bad Pancake Theory…

Have you heard of the bad pancake theory in dating?


Lets apply this to your business...

Basically, when you make pancakes, the first one comes out a little wonky. But as you keep going, they get progressively better!

Usually, this is applied to dating after long term relationships. The first person you date is the bad pancake. But, it gets better after that, "they say."

Well, let's apply this theory to business. The first idea you have, the first course you create, the first video you make, the first live stream you do...all bad pancakes. When I say bad, I simply mean, it's not going to be perfect. You're still learning. And there is nothing wrong with that!

I mean sure, it's "edible" - you will be able to sell it, post it, launch it, etc...but will it be the apex of your life's work? 

No! It shouldn't be.

You know how many youtube videos I made before I felt like my videos were actually...kind of good?

You know how many courses I launched before I finally felt like I created my flagship one?

You know how many talks I gave at conferences before I felt like I could own it on stage?

You know how many times I winged out my eye liner before it looked good on my face? 😂

A lot!

But you know what I never did? I never stewed in the idea that any of it had to be perfect before it made its debut. Who has time for that? I have a life to live, people to help, purpose to step into, obedience to walk in.

I kept going.

Perfectionism will kill momentum. And I am not available for that. Instead, I focused my energy on learning what I needed to learn so that it just got done! I can assess after, revamp later, and redo if necessary.

I am where I am today because I wasn't willing to lose to the idea that perfect the ONLY way to do it. 

So if you're spinning your wheels in neutral because you think the first iteration of anything needs to be absolutely perfect, just remember...even a batch of pancakes never start out ready for their cookbook cover closeup the first time.

Besides, who told you it had to be perfect anyway?

That mindset is going to make this experience more painful than it ever needed to be, my friend.

Choose again.


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