The Bad Pancake Theory…

Have you heard of the bad pancake theory in dating?


Lets apply this to your business...

Basically, when you make pancakes, the first one comes out a little wonky. But as you keep going, they get progressively better!

Usually, this is applied to dating after long term relationships. The first person you date is the bad pancake. But, it gets better after that, "they say."

Well, let's apply this theory to business. The first idea you have, the first course you create, the first video you make, the first live stream you do...all bad pancakes. When I say bad, I simply mean, it's not going to be perfect. You're still learning. And there is nothing wrong with that!

I mean sure, it's "edible" - you will be able to sell it, post it, launch it, etc...but will it be the apex of your life's work? 

No! It shouldn't be.

You know how many youtube videos I made before I felt like my videos were actually...kind of good?

You know how many courses I launched before I finally felt like I created my flagship one?

You know how many talks I gave at conferences before I felt like I could own it on stage?

You know how many times I winged out my eye liner before it looked good on my face? 😂

A lot!

But you know what I never did? I never stewed in the idea that any of it had to be perfect before it made its debut. Who has time for that? I have a life to live, people to help, purpose to step into, obedience to walk in.

I kept going.

Perfectionism will kill momentum. And I am not available for that. Instead, I focused my energy on learning what I needed to learn so that it just got done! I can assess after, revamp later, and redo if necessary.

I am where I am today because I wasn't willing to lose to the idea that perfect the ONLY way to do it. 

So if you're spinning your wheels in neutral because you think the first iteration of anything needs to be absolutely perfect, just remember...even a batch of pancakes never start out ready for their cookbook cover closeup the first time.

Besides, who told you it had to be perfect anyway?

That mindset is going to make this experience more painful than it ever needed to be, my friend.

Choose again.


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Like A Boss

Storytime... First, that last bit was a nod to what the kids are saying these days. Lol 😂 😂 😂 they slay me!

On to the story. When I was in grad school, we took thing learning test. Basically determines a learning style. 95% of the people in my class were what's called "reflective learners" - meaning they needed time to process, think about it, etc.

I was one of 3 people who actually are the opposite. I am an active learner. And when I discovered this... Ya'll! My whole life made sense. Sitting and thinking about is NOT me... At all!

I don't wanna think, I just wanna do it and figure it out as I go. Now, I'm not saying this is always the right way to go about life, but... I will say from experience, in my own life and the people I coach... Decisiveness is a HUGE contributor to success.

The highest earners are the fastest action takers. Period. 👆🏾

Forbes, Business Insider, INC Magazine - every major publication, ever major guru says the same thing.

Action requires trust. It's easy to say you trust God, but... Actions speak louder than words my friend. Staying stuck, overthinking, all of that... It's a lack of trust more than anything. Trust God. Trust yourself. Do the things.

Action requires movement. You can meditate all day, you can say the affirmations, journal til the cows come home. I teach all of those things. But they are tools designed to lead you to divinely inspired action. If not, then what's it all for?

Action requires support. Idk who told you that you had to do it alone...because I definitely don't teach that! Lol. Get help!


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Be Bold Because You’re Called To…

Their insecurities shouldn't affect how you show up. Period.

There's always going to be that ONE person that projects their fears, anxiety and insecurity on you.

They will leave the comment.
They will thumbs down the video.
They will send you the email.
They will share their unsolicited thoughts about you, to you because it makes them feel better.

Hear me when I say this... There will always be people in the world who don't get it.

There will be people who are triggered by your success, boldness, courage, light and people who feel the need to tell you all about it because it soothes their ego to do so - know that, bless them, and move on. It has NOTHING to do with you.

As a leader, unfortunately, you will get to be on the receiving end of some not so nice things...not saying it's fair. Not saying it's right. Just saying it is.

So often, I work with people who are afraid to speak out and show up because of this - I am not exempt btw.

I wrestle. I hesitate. But here's the thing... I don't let it stop me.

Other people don't get to dictate how I show up and how I share what I've been led to share.

Other people don't get to be in control of how It makes me feel to stand on truth and courage.

Other people don't get to have that much control of my life. I mean... Come on! I'm probably not even talking to them anyway.

And so it is with you...be bold because you're called to. Show up because that's part of your service.

Cheers to how you're showing up today, my friend! I'm proud of you!



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