Don’t Be Surprised If…

Something I tell my clients all the time...


Dont be surprised by your success. Be humble. Be grateful. But please please please dont be surprised. Here's what I mean...

Sometimes we say things like "omg i cant believe this happened to me!" or "i dont know how I got here" - really?! 'Cause I could have sworn 3 months ago this is exactly what you wanted and we had a whole conversation on what you were going to do so that it actually comes to pass... πŸ€”πŸ˜‚

No judgement lol - I have been there too. Definitely said those things. Thankfully I have a coach who caught it quickly and made me reframe.

Because saying you dont know how something so great manifested is disempowering.

It's actually one of the worst things you can do when you achieve a level of success and then tell yourself you don't know how it happened!

Success is not happenstance. Success is not random. Success is planned for, prayed for, etc.

Saying you don't know how it happened discounts everything you did leading up to it.

     You discount your prayers.
     You discount your intentions.
     You discount your work.

You wanted this. You asked for this. You showed up this! You put in time and effort for this! So how you gon' act like it just happened all will nilly?

So... Heres a quick lesson on the universal law of cause and effect.

YOU always operate at the level of cause, what you experience is the effect. In other words, you reap what you sow. In other other words, every action has an equal opposite reaction.

Every thought, every intention, every action that comes from you will ripple into something. You get to choose what that something is based on the said thoughts, actions, and intentions.

When you set your sights on achieving something great, and then you show up for it in the way you should... Lets not pretend we didn't play an active role in that process!

And here's why this is important - when you can get behind the belief that you are in fact co-creating your life, and you see it in real time, and you acknowledge it in real time then you learn to recognize just how powerful of a being you truly are. God did not make you by accident. He didnt give you the desire just 'cause. Trust it. ❀️


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The Power of Play

My secret superpower (and its probably one of yours too, so listen up!)

Play. Play is very powerful for me. And probably is for you too! Just gotta lean in.

According to Scientific American, fun and laughter release endorphins, happy hormones which counteract cortisol.

Basically, fun counteracts stress, one of the biggest inhibitors of cognitive performance.

For adults it helps you relax, be more creative, solve problems easier and more effectively, etc.

And for me personally, I find myself more in the flow when I am just having fun!

Things are easier.
I trust God more.
I trust myself more.
I manifest faster.
I help more people.
I make more money.
Opportunities pop up "out of nowhere"
I can rest in all the success.
And it all just feels good.

Yes! Its great to have a concrete strategy and to learn how to follow through and execute. Please, for the love of all things #entrepreneurial - execute!

Its commendable to be disciplined with your time and hustle when necessary. Because showing up is requires.

But honestly, if being in your business isnt fun, why are you even doing it?

Play is magnetic.
Play feels like alignment.
Play is indicative of flow.

Don't wind yourself up so tight from all of the ins and outs of your to-to list.

Step away from the laptop when technology isn't going your way. Take a nap if you can't slow your mind down enough to stop spiraling in doubt and negative self talk. Go for a walk, get some sun, play with puppies... Do whatever you need to do to find a point of access!

Live life to the full... Including the fullness of fun πŸ€ΈπŸΎβ€β™€οΈπŸ€ΈπŸΎβ€β™€οΈπŸ€ΈπŸΎβ€β™€οΈ

Have some of that today, will ya?

#Affirmation: The more fun I have, the more successful I am.


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When Did You Learn To Settle?

Who first told you couldn't have it all?


When did you learn to settle?

What desires have you tabled because someone, somewhere told you they were "unrealistic" - whatever that means smh?

How did you come to believe that only some people get to be "lucky" and you don't?

All questions worth sitting with today...unlock the subconscious stuff thats been holding you back. A lot of the times you will realize they were narratives not of your own doing, but storylines you decided to accept along the way because of others around you.

Release. Forgive. Choose something else.

Let's start with this: you are a powerful force in this world, destined to do good, and designed with image bearing co-creative abilities.

Its time you come back to that truth.

This March as we celebrate #womenshistorymonth let's not forget what part you are playing in history right now!

The ripple effect of your impact can reach farther than you ever even dreamed, but not if you're living a life full of limits someone placed you at some point in time.

This month I am working on putting together something thats going to help you be inspired to expand!

Hint 1: it involves some of my favorite people (my most brilliant of clients)

Hint 2: its free.

Get ready!!!!!

Everyone on my email list will get first dibs. Be sure you're on that and looking out for the email mid-month.


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The Bad Pancake Theory…

Have you heard of the bad pancake theory in dating?


Lets apply this to your business...

Basically, when you make pancakes, the first one comes out a little wonky. But as you keep going, they get progressively better!

Usually, this is applied to dating after long term relationships. The first person you date is the bad pancake. But, it gets better after that, "they say."

Well, let's apply this theory to business. The first idea you have, the first course you create, the first video you make, the first live stream you do...all bad pancakes. When I say bad, I simply mean, it's not going to be perfect. You're still learning. And there is nothing wrong with that!

I mean sure, it's "edible" - you will be able to sell it, post it, launch it, etc...but will it be the apex of your life's work? 

No! It shouldn't be.

You know how many youtube videos I made before I felt like my videos were actually...kind of good?

You know how many courses I launched before I finally felt like I created my flagship one?

You know how many talks I gave at conferences before I felt like I could own it on stage?

You know how many times I winged out my eye liner before it looked good on my face? πŸ˜‚

A lot!

But you know what I never did? I never stewed in the idea that any of it had to be perfect before it made its debut. Who has time for that? I have a life to live, people to help, purpose to step into, obedience to walk in.

I kept going.

Perfectionism will kill momentum. And I am not available for that. Instead, I focused my energy on learning what I needed to learn so that it just got done! I can assess after, revamp later, and redo if necessary.

I am where I am today because I wasn't willing to lose to the idea that perfect the ONLY way to do it. 

So if you're spinning your wheels in neutral because you think the first iteration of anything needs to be absolutely perfect, just remember...even a batch of pancakes never start out ready for their cookbook cover closeup the first time.

Besides, who told you it had to be perfect anyway?

That mindset is going to make this experience more painful than it ever needed to be, my friend.

Choose again.


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The Big Lie Everyone Buys Into

Everyone buys into the lie.


What lie you ask?

The lie that it has to be hard.

Success is hard.
Money is hard.
Building a business is hard.
Relationships are hard.
Life is hard.

And because we adopt that narrative, we self-sabbotage every step of the way to the goal. We sweat the small stuff. We procrastinate. We get caught up in things that are really none of our business and generally out of our control. We stress. We worry. We rinse. We repeat.

We create a cycle that edifies the internal dialogue, so we experience it over and over again because your ego refuses to be wrong. You won't betray your own core beliefs... If you decide its going to be hard, it absolutely will be!

But what if there was another way?

*Spoiler alert*

There is!

I'd like to offer up an alternative...

Its only hard if you think it is. Shocker. I know.

I have found that most things in life arent actually that hard. I am. πŸ˜‚ I'm fighting myself 99% of the time. I'm in my own head. I'm talking myself out of things I'm afraid to face. I'm worrying about the wrong things at the wrong time. Its me. I am hard. So... Life reflects that right back.

Everything and everyone is you pushed out.

Yes, there will be challenges. But your "response ability" is full of choices. Thoughts become things so stop choosing thoughts that make it harder than it needs to be.

Example: I used to think launching courses needed to come with all this added stress and sleepless nights. Thats what "they" all say! Until one day in 2017 I decided I didn't want to do that. Ease and flow was also a choice. And it was way better! Quick shift. Different experience entirely.

Flip the script on yourself. Make it fun. Because yes...it all gets to be fun - if you decide thats what you want.

And when the going gets tough... Theres God's grace to fill in all the gaps I create (more on that tomorrow).


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