Don’t Be Surprised If…

Something I tell my clients all the time...


Dont be surprised by your success. Be humble. Be grateful. But please please please dont be surprised. Here's what I mean...

Sometimes we say things like "omg i cant believe this happened to me!" or "i dont know how I got here" - really?! 'Cause I could have sworn 3 months ago this is exactly what you wanted and we had a whole conversation on what you were going to do so that it actually comes to pass... πŸ€”πŸ˜‚

No judgement lol - I have been there too. Definitely said those things. Thankfully I have a coach who caught it quickly and made me reframe.

Because saying you dont know how something so great manifested is disempowering.

It's actually one of the worst things you can do when you achieve a level of success and then tell yourself you don't know how it happened!

Success is not happenstance. Success is not random. Success is planned for, prayed for, etc.

Saying you don't know how it happened discounts everything you did leading up to it.

     You discount your prayers.
     You discount your intentions.
     You discount your work.

You wanted this. You asked for this. You showed up this! You put in time and effort for this! So how you gon' act like it just happened all will nilly?

So... Heres a quick lesson on the universal law of cause and effect.

YOU always operate at the level of cause, what you experience is the effect. In other words, you reap what you sow. In other other words, every action has an equal opposite reaction.

Every thought, every intention, every action that comes from you will ripple into something. You get to choose what that something is based on the said thoughts, actions, and intentions.

When you set your sights on achieving something great, and then you show up for it in the way you should... Lets not pretend we didn't play an active role in that process!

And here's why this is important - when you can get behind the belief that you are in fact co-creating your life, and you see it in real time, and you acknowledge it in real time then you learn to recognize just how powerful of a being you truly are. God did not make you by accident. He didnt give you the desire just 'cause. Trust it. ❀️


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The Power of Play

My secret superpower (and its probably one of yours too, so listen up!)

Play. Play is very powerful for me. And probably is for you too! Just gotta lean in.

According to Scientific American, fun and laughter release endorphins, happy hormones which counteract cortisol.

Basically, fun counteracts stress, one of the biggest inhibitors of cognitive performance.

For adults it helps you relax, be more creative, solve problems easier and more effectively, etc.

And for me personally, I find myself more in the flow when I am just having fun!

Things are easier.
I trust God more.
I trust myself more.
I manifest faster.
I help more people.
I make more money.
Opportunities pop up "out of nowhere"
I can rest in all the success.
And it all just feels good.

Yes! Its great to have a concrete strategy and to learn how to follow through and execute. Please, for the love of all things #entrepreneurial - execute!

Its commendable to be disciplined with your time and hustle when necessary. Because showing up is requires.

But honestly, if being in your business isnt fun, why are you even doing it?

Play is magnetic.
Play feels like alignment.
Play is indicative of flow.

Don't wind yourself up so tight from all of the ins and outs of your to-to list.

Step away from the laptop when technology isn't going your way. Take a nap if you can't slow your mind down enough to stop spiraling in doubt and negative self talk. Go for a walk, get some sun, play with puppies... Do whatever you need to do to find a point of access!

Live life to the full... Including the fullness of fun πŸ€ΈπŸΎβ€β™€οΈπŸ€ΈπŸΎβ€β™€οΈπŸ€ΈπŸΎβ€β™€οΈ

Have some of that today, will ya?

#Affirmation: The more fun I have, the more successful I am.


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Instagram vs Reality

Look at the left to see what im really working with today 🀣🀣🀣

We love the beautiful photos... Dont get me wrong. @womenbymag made me look amazing in this! The light, the room, the outfit, the hair, the makeup (thanks @cynfulmakeup for glamming me up!

Shoots like this are sometimes a part of my "workday" too but not on the reg!

The 2nd picture is more my jam when I am at home.

I'm in yoga pants because i am usually about to workout or I just finished working out, or because i really jusy like comfy bottoms. No makeup. Hair is frizzy and half blow dried because I didn't have enough time. Books, papers, planners, cords and all kinds of things around me. I am probably hungry because i forgot to eat. But I ALWAYS have warm beverage somewhere within reach.

Homemade Medicine Balls are my go to lately. Thanks to @ky_crook_on_purpose for the recipe! Its soooo good!

However... All of that is exactly why I do what I do anyway. Success to me is yoga pants and no makeup on a Monday.

Success is also stilletos and photoshoots on a Tuesday.

Both scenarios are very much a part of my life and i am here for it!

All this to say, we do what we do when we need to do it because we are CEOs.


We build empires. We make money. We change lives. We impact millions.

Whether you do it in fuzzy socks or stilletos is completely up to you. I'm cheering you on either way.

If you wanna share, I'd love to hear about your Monday!



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Want some advice?

When it comes to success, my advice boils down to this...


First, let me tell you what its not.

❌ Its not starting your day at some ungodly hour. It works for some, but not all. Find your rhythm.

❌ Its not making sure you have all your ducks in a row before you launch. Whatever that means lol. Done is better than perfect. Personally, im not that granular. I like systems, i also like the freedom i give myself to deviate when necessary.

❌ Its not having a set of curated brand colors, website or logo. Fun fact, I've never had a logo. πŸ€·πŸΎβ€β™€οΈ And my "brand colors" have evolved as i have. Not opposed to any of this btw. It just hasn't been something i put a lot of focus on.

❌ Its not waiting until "the right time." Just let go of that, it doesn't exist. The past is gone. The future is not promised. All you really have is the power of now.

My biggest piece of advice is... Show up.

Show up for the dream
Show up for the calling
Show up for your people
Show up for yourself

Homework:

Answer these questions:

Showing up looks like asking the right questions. What has God you called to do at this moment?

Showing up looks like taking the right action. Not getting #fomo and hopping on every trend that pops up on your feed. What feels the most aligned to your mission?

Showing up looks like staying in your lane and owning it. You are uniquely called to be you. You have something special that no one else has. What is that?

All the stuff you want wants you back!!!!

But you're gonna have to participate in the process, my friend! Showing up is the prerequisite. So, I just wanted to remind you of that today.


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The Big Lie Everyone Buys Into

Everyone buys into the lie.


What lie you ask?

The lie that it has to be hard.

Success is hard.
Money is hard.
Building a business is hard.
Relationships are hard.
Life is hard.

And because we adopt that narrative, we self-sabbotage every step of the way to the goal. We sweat the small stuff. We procrastinate. We get caught up in things that are really none of our business and generally out of our control. We stress. We worry. We rinse. We repeat.

We create a cycle that edifies the internal dialogue, so we experience it over and over again because your ego refuses to be wrong. You won't betray your own core beliefs... If you decide its going to be hard, it absolutely will be!

But what if there was another way?

*Spoiler alert*

There is!

I'd like to offer up an alternative...

Its only hard if you think it is. Shocker. I know.

I have found that most things in life arent actually that hard. I am. πŸ˜‚ I'm fighting myself 99% of the time. I'm in my own head. I'm talking myself out of things I'm afraid to face. I'm worrying about the wrong things at the wrong time. Its me. I am hard. So... Life reflects that right back.

Everything and everyone is you pushed out.

Yes, there will be challenges. But your "response ability" is full of choices. Thoughts become things so stop choosing thoughts that make it harder than it needs to be.

Example: I used to think launching courses needed to come with all this added stress and sleepless nights. Thats what "they" all say! Until one day in 2017 I decided I didn't want to do that. Ease and flow was also a choice. And it was way better! Quick shift. Different experience entirely.

Flip the script on yourself. Make it fun. Because yes...it all gets to be fun - if you decide thats what you want.

And when the going gets tough... Theres God's grace to fill in all the gaps I create (more on that tomorrow).


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